You need anal lubricants whenever you are engaging in anal sex play. Dramatically reduce and eliminate pain and friction when you want to engage in anal play. Why experience pain when you don't have to. Give your partner the gift of an anal desensitizing lubricant so she can enjoy anal sex just as much as you do and you may find she actually brings it up next time. Why should anyone endure pain when they don't want to and the answer is that they will avoid the practice whenever they can. Get smart and make it more pleasurable and you will thank yourself for it.